10 Words to Delete from Your Vocabulary

Words are powerful because they shape our thoughts,determine our actions,and chart the course of our lives.This is true whether the words are positive giving hope and
encouragement or negative utterances that steal our joy and confidence.

Wherever we are in our lives,personal relationships, or careers, the words we have used consistently are partly responsible.

This fact should prompt us to become more aware of our words,and when needed, to change them so that we can begin to get the results we really desire.

Recently,during a particularly challenging period, I discovered that I was using some of the following words far too often to get the favorable results I sought.

1. Can't: The use of this word is primarily responsible for countless hopes and
dreams lying dormant on the 'drawing boards' of our lives. Completely
eliminate your use of this word and you will see a significant positive change
in your life.

2. But: When used as a conjunction,"but" negates whatever statement that precedes
it." I want to study law, but it wlll take a lot of hard work." Your mind does
not focus on your desire to become a lawyer or judge;it only sees the hard work
you will need to perform.Replace "but" with 'and'.

3. Should: Any statement that uses the word "should" generally elicits guilt."I
should go to the gym," makes you feel guilty for not going. Replace this word
with "choose," as in, "I choose to go to the gym,or I choose not to go to the
gym today.

4. Maybe: This word indicates indecision,doubt,or uncertainty as to a course of
action. For example, "Maybe I'd better wait to..."
For those of us interested in personal development,"maybe" should be used very
sparingly. Use "I will" or " I will not" instead of maybe. The mere sound of
the more positive words emit feelings of confidence and resolve which are so
important to our personal well-being.

5. Soon or Later: Both are indefinite references to time.They are also
non-commital.They should be replaced with a definite time and date.
When someone tells you he or she is going to do something "soon" or "later,"
there is no way to determine when "whatever it is" will get done. Imagine
what could happen to deadlines and your integrity when these words are used
frequently.

6. Someday: Someday, like "soon or later", is much too indefinite,and when it
is used, it shows the same lack of commitment.Replace "someday" with a specific
date and time.

7. Never: This word is absolute,and there are only limited situations when "never"
is absolutely true. The use of this word,in my opinion,suggests a closed mind,
which seriously hinders our self-growth efforts. The word "never" should be
replaced with a non-absolute term.

8. Won't: The word "won't" implies an unwillingness,reluctance, or closed
mindedness,and like the absolute term 'never', it is quite harmful because it
closes the door on many of the actions we need to take to reach our goals.

9. If: This is a small word that carries large doubts and uncertainties, and when
used often,it gnaws away at our confidence and intended actions, two qualities
necessary for any type of success.

10.Try or (I'll Try): I don't know about you, but each time someone has said these
words to me,or the few times that I have used them in conversations with
others,whatever the subject of "I'll try" was,rarely, if ever, got done.
Replace "I'll try," with 'I will.'

These words must be given serious thought before we use them in our "self talk"
or in the conversations we have with others.

We must remember this: Our words affect our thoughts, our actions, our very lives,
and because of their power, we must choose them with the utmost care.

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